I recently spent a week on one of Thailand’s beautiful islands with a wonderful, inspiring, intelligent and sexy woman on vacation. The goal was to do nothing for a week. We were pretty successful, but we ended up doing a couple of things: I burnt myself in the sun and we laughed our butts off.
The connection between well-being and laughter, the endorphin released and the way laughter is akin to the grooming rituals of primates has long been studied. We all get it, but we all do not care because laughing is fun, so who cares if it is good for you? The real news would be if someone discovered that laughing killed you over time; that laughing slowly uses up some limited, finite laugh-enzyme that we need to keep ourselves alive and well in old age. Luckily, that study is still unpublished (but look for it on a slow news day).
Comedians secretly know, however, what the rest of the unwashed mass of society may not: laughter is a vital part of romance, love and even sex. I am not just talking about the fact that a sense of humour is the number one characteristic people deem necessary in a mate, though it is related.
Laughing with someone creates bonds with that person on several levels. The endorphins fre and who knows if we can smell those from each other ... gross. There is the connection that is made intellectually since the intellectual process of joke telling and joke understanding means that on some level, the teller and the listener are like-minded, and we monkey like like-minded monkeys.
There is a vulnerability created when we laugh as it requires us to let our guard down, both physically (it is hard to fght while laughing) and socially (laughing often reveals some inner-beliefs or thoughts, which has some potential for embarrassment). When we share vulnerable moments and do not attack each other during those moments, trust is built.
Laughing together creates memorable moments and shared memories, which are vital in a romantic relationship. The laughs we have shared is a cliché you have heard before, but it is cliché for a reason: it is something that many of us experience, and it is something that is vital. A romantic dinner with soft music, candlelight, good food, a bottle of wine and stimulating conversation sounds great, but it is also a complete waste of time if a few good laughs are not shared.
A romantic relationship based on laughter is likely to be one of the strongest (when you frst see each other naked might not be great, but laughing together at other times is ok). Therefore, it is pretty obvious that taking a date to a comedy show is a great idea (just saying).
Love and laughter: they make a good couple. Whether the woman I spent the week on the island with and I will make a good couple is yet to be seen, but it is looking pretty good.
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